Consult with your spouse-to-be about their preferences
Your husband-to-be may be set on that Jack Johnson song. If tradition is a factor, then determine if that traditional song is a ideal fit for your service. Speaking to your fiance about your music preferences and making mutual decisions together will also bring you closer to each other. It will be great practice for your married life!
Choose music that will best represent the overall theme
Your music will create the atmosphere for the occasion and set the tone for your guests. Discuss your theme with your partner and the total vibes you want for the ceremony. Will it be traditional or contemporary? Are you striving for religious practices or celebrating your cultural habits? Perhaps you want the ceremony to reflect your favorite romantic scene from the Parisian or Italian film you both enjoy, or perhaps you prefer it to represent something more festive, like the carnival where you shared your first date. Maybe you both share a love for theater and want to have a Broadway-themed occasion. The theme of the ceremony will lead you to the type of music you require. If you really want a specific song but it doesn't quite match the rest of your choices, there may be ways to adapt it. Do not be afraid to change songs to fit your individual taste and the mood and theme of your event.
Pick music that fits your personality
Don't worry about including your Great Aunt Muriel's song suggestions for the service. And your bridesmaids should not be pressuring you to use songs they've heard used at everyone else's weddings. Remember, this isn't your mother's wedding, or your friend's, or any stranger's, it's yours. You don't need to use a song just because it is the number-one choice for weddings. If you don't like a song, do not use it - plain and simple. Find music that you and your spouse can both agree on. Don't be afraid to think outside the box. The music you use can be much more meaningful if you select something which speaks to both of you. You're bound to discover a song or instrumental sound that provides you and your partner that same special feeling in your soul.
Pick music that is appropriate for the place
Where you hold your ceremony may determine the type of music you may choose. Churches may already have pre-approved lists of music that you need to adhere to, or the pastor may deny the use of certain song requests due to their negative connotations. Certain religious songs might also be insisted upon for specific areas of the ceremony. Restrictions in the use of instruments and musicians might also be a variable. Weddings in nonreligious places or outdoor weddings might have more room for options, but have their own elements to think about, such as supplying power for electric instruments, and determining the amount of musicians you would like to use. Also, keep in mind that 99 percent of music during a ceremony, aside from traditional hymns, is instrumental. However, this does not mean you can not have music with lyrics. Just remember, if you wish to have vocalists, this adds yet another factor to the sort of music you might use.
It's your choice to only have a small music during the service or lots of it. Keep in mind, however, that it isn't a concert; having only enough music to cover the basics can be sufficient. Remember, your guests came to celebrate you, so it's best to not mess the ceremony with too much music - keep it classy. If there is no room for a number of your song choices, you can always play them during the reception. Also, while having a vocalist or several, or even a chorus, can be beautiful, make certain that their singing won't wear your guests thin with too many vocal numbers, or interfere with significant features of the service. You don't need the soloist distracting the guests while shirk or hitting piercing high notes because the bride is walking down the aisle. Elect to have your vocalists lead the hymns, or sing before or after the service. The songs you choose and the positioning of these during the ceremony will set the mood and flow of events.
Remember that the music is intended to be the glue that holds your service together. You want your event to have the ability to keep a pleasurable flow. Think about the areas of the ceremony that you're choosing music for. Potential parts of the ceremony which could be set to music may include the prelude, the processional (you can select separate pieces for the wedding party and the bridal entry), congregational hymns and spiritual ceremony answers, the light of the unity candle, the recessional and the postlude. If you want to, you might add a vocalist to any of these pieces. Keep in mind that several of these pieces, particularly during the processional, may just require a few seconds to move through, so try to choose similar-sounding songs for all these parts. Rather than trying to cram a lot of tunes into the ceremony, which might disrupt the stream, you may also save a few of those songs to be played at the reception instead.
Determine the number and type of musicians you desire that fit your style
Size certainly matters - when it comes to musicians at your own wedding. Consider your space limitations at the venue beforehand to make sure there's enough space for all of the musicians you need and all of the equipment they need. Choose musicians that not only best fit your favorite style, but that are also comfortable with that style. Churches might have their own musicians aside from the organist that you may use. You might also want to consider choosing an instrument that's unique to your individual culture if it is important to you. Feel free to include family members with musical abilities in your ceremony also. If you ask someone who's not a professional, understand that they may not exactly perform perfectly on the big day.
Do not hesitate to ask for advice
With so many choices and varieties of music to pick from, it can get easy to become overwhelmed or lost. Do not be afraid to ask your close friends or individuals who know you well for assistance if you need it. Ask a recently married friend about their experiences in selecting music and any tips about what they did or what they would have done differently. You might even want to hold off on booking musicians before you have decided on your musical options. However, you might also considering welcoming the suggestions and thoughts of the professional musicians whom you employ - they might have the ability to suggest something that's right up your alley. Listening to CD's of popular wedding music can help you to get the ball rolling as well. Ultimately, the choice of music is up to you and your fiance, so choose what feels right for you!